Should I stay or should I go?
So Mr Bob (or Prof Bob, as he currently prefers) heads out to his new job July. I'm not sure what I should do. If I have a cool project to work on that I can get a couple papers out of, maybe I should stay, at least until I get a job lined up in his city.
But I'll miss him and we were both hoping we past the long distance phase of our relationship.
In other news, it took me 5 minutes to draw out tetra-n butyl ammonium perchlorate this morning. I'm feeling rather stupid right now.
Just trust me, I should really, really be able to sketch that in 30 seconds.
posted by Aislinn Sirk @ 11:02 AM
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Yeah, I've got nuthin' for that second part of your post.
As for the first part? I vote put relationship before career unless it's a real once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to work on an awesome project. But remember, it's OK to not grab every single opportunity that comes your way. In academia, you probably won't ever hear anyone tell you that, but I say it's ok. :-)
I agree with Kim.
It's not just relationship. I get pretty cranky if I'm not working, so I'm not sure how happy I'd be just sitting at home. (If I had a job lined up, it would be no issue and I could enjoy my time off, but being at home unemployed would kill me).
Also, I have hope for a cool job in Mr Bob's city, but I can't interview till September.
Sheesh, Bob. What a dumb blonde you are.
*eyeroll*
I say stay where you are for a while and do some work. He'll be so busy when he gets there that you'll never see him, and despite having lots of people to see poker to play, and sushi to eat in his city, you might feel a bit down.
Also, you know that you can pretty much leave your current job whenever, so if it gets to be too much, then you can come and spend a couple of weeks at the cottage.. er, I mean, pack up and leave Mr. Bob.
Oh, and Mom says you can stay with her. :D
When I said 'Pack up and leave Mr. Bob,' I meant that you could pack up and leave the town in which you have a current job and move out West.
I am brainless.
You can always look for some consulting type work. Promote yourself on Mr. Bob's campus as available for consulting on grant writing or manuscript editing. My boss had contracted out for people to organize and start manuscripts for her and pays a pretty penny.
(I'm still laughing over Coco's "leave Mr. Bob" advice.)
Anyway - my suggestion is go to New City with Mr. Bob in July. Just for a week or so, so you can approve whatever apartment or house is going to be the new Chez Bob. Then go back to Boston for fun with tetra-n butyl ammonium perchlorate and stuff, leaving Mr Bob with all the actual work and nuisance of actually getting the new living quarters up & running & furnished & stuff.
Then you can blow in sometime in early Sept to tell him what he did wrong and start your new job. Win/win.
I can draw out tetra-n butyl ammonium perchlorate in 25 seconds.
You so copy & pasted that, Puffy.
LMAO @ Kim!!! And Coco.
I'm voting for Swami's advice unless Coco meant a couple weeks at MY cottage, then I'd vote for her advice.
I am fond of Swami's advice.
And awed by puffy.
I like Swami and Coco's advice.
Misery loves company: as happy as I am to have a job offer, it will mean long distance if boyfriend and I decide to pursue the relationship. I don't have any advice better than anybody else has given. I just wanted you to know that I understand the situation.
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