In Canada
So I'm back home and trying not to fall into a morass of boredom and resulting crankiness. I am stupidly busy in Boston and live in a theoretically uncomfortable house (we don't turn on the heat and my bed is a futon with all the comfort of a sack of cement) but my work is demanding, challanging and rewarding and my friends are interesting, nice and great to be around. It turns out I value that way more than sleep, comfort and even a spacious kitchen.
Comfort is highly overated (even in my highly pregnant state) I have found. Stimulation is not.
I need to carve out a life in Victoria, but even though I know I ought to, I find it difficult to go through the work of finding a decent job and some friends (and it gets harder when you get older and people are more set in their ways). Lounging around home is not for me. Some people can revel in it, but not me. I just mope.
Right now I'm off to drop a laser level off with my dad and then I will head to a coffee shop to do some work for my old job. I'm also searching Craigslist because I need a desk and some bookshelves.
posted by Aislinn Sirk @ 12:49 PM
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Just remember that a roomy house is just more space to fill up with toys that you have to clean up.
As for friends, I poked around and joined a local mom group. I don't think I fit into it very well, despite the fact that I'm a mom. Still, it was a big step for me since I'm horrible at inserting myself into social situations. You're right, though, I think it's hard to make friends as you get older.
True. It gets harder and harder to make friends as you get older. Although eventually you reach that point where you can't remember who they are anyway.
We divide ourselves into seperate little worlds of working / not working, married / not married, and mom / not mom. Good friends are hard to find. Tell me the secret if you learn it.
Am I officially the LAST person to find out about the baby Jesus? *pout*
Congrats Bob! Happy, happy!
I can relate to needing to carve out a new life. I had to do that when we moved here. I had quit my job, didn't know anyone, and felt completely cut off from my old friends. I started playing slo-pitch. You should be ready to go come spring. :D
If you're into religion at all, that's a common area to find friends. You'll find "mommy" friends, too. Perhaps you could start a "mommy" group for working moms who also crave adult and cognitive stimulation.
Hi guys,
In my last position at the university, it was pretty easy to just hang out with people and go for lunch or coffee. There were generally invites floating around for parties (when a lot of people are single they are much more inclined to mingle) on the weekend. After Mr Bob went back to Canada, I was a bit worried about being lonely. I lived in our apartment for 2 months and then moved to a place I found semi-randomly on Craigslist (I looked at 8 places) with 4 other roomates.
With Mr Bob gone, I found I got more invitations (sometimes snivelling about being deserted works) which was really nice and I got along with all my roomates and became quite good friends with one of them.
This doesn't have much to do with what is going on now. I will need to steal Mr Bob's work friends. One of his collegues just had a baby and is on 8 month mat leave and several others have over-educated wives with babies as well.
One problem is Mr Bob really doesn't need people around as much as I do. He is happy with me, his good friend who comes over to build a boat with him every couple weekends and the guy he goes to the gym with. It makes it difficult to steal his friends when he is a bit standoffish himself.
Ah well.
Over-educated moms? What more could you ask for? A perfect match! They can be your female friends who you see without Mr. Bob.
Yes, I should stop feeling so damn picky. I also quite like to meet people who are a different background than I am. I don't want to feel like it's totally normal to have a couple degrees.
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